Divorce,
Khalea & Dehar
Shaikh
Mohammed Bin Salih El-Otheimeen was asked the
following question:
The extent of the correctness of “the
most detested of the lawful to Allah is divorce”
Answer:
This Hadith is weak because even from
phrasing point of view it is not right to say
“the most detested of the lawful to Allah”
because whatever is detested by Allah cannot be
lawful and permitted, but no doubt that Allah does
not like divorce, for example a man to divorce his
wife, hterefore, divorce is a detested behaviour.
The evidence which confirms that Allah does
not like the act of divorcing is the Quranic verse
which says, “For those who take an oath for
abstention from their wives, a waiting for four
months is ordained.
If then they return Allah is often
forgiving, most merciful.
But if their intention is firm from for
divorce Allah hear and know all things”
[2:226-227].
In case of they forgive each other and
decide to remain united, Allah said, “Allah is
often forgiving, most most merciful” it means
that Allah will forgive them and bestow his mercy
on them.
In case of their determination to get
divorced, Allah said, “Allah hear and know all
things” this means that Allah does not like them
to get divorced.
We all know that divorce breaks the heart
of the woman, breaks houses and family bond
scatters children in the street and trouble the
insulation of marriage.
Therefore Allah does not like it.
Shaikh
Abdel Aziz Bin Baz was asked the following
question:
When the woman can be considered to be
divorced? Why divorce was permitted by religion?
Answer:
The
woman is considered to be divorced if her husband
tells her that she is divorced while he is sober
and not under the effect of madness or
drunkenness…etc and if the woman was pure a
purity that is not affected by sexual intercourse
or if she was a pregnant or a menopause.
But if the woman was at the time of divorce
was, menstruating or in the period of childbed or
if she was in a state of purity but sexually
consumed by her husband and she was not pregnant
and not menopause, the divorce is not applicable
on her except through the ruling of a legal judge.
If the legal judge rules that divorce is
valid then if she is to be treated as a divorced.
Because the ruling of a judge removes
disagreement in jurist prudential matters.
If the husband was mad or under the
influence of wine, drug…. etc or forced to utter
the term of divorce as well as very angry to such
extent that he could not give considerations to
the harms of divorce and the
divorced believes him and took the matter
seriously or the testimony of evidence which
proofs that he was not sober, all these factors
makes divorce invalid.
In this regard the prophet (PBUH) says,
“the den (recording of behaviors) is raised from
the infant till he grows-up (reaches puberty
period) and the sleeping until he/she makes up and
the mad until he/she becomes conscious” Allah
the Exalted in might also says, “Any one who,
after accepting faith in Allah, utters unbelievers
under compulsion, His heart remaining firm in
faith” [16:106].
Therefore, if some one is forced to be
unbeliever, he is not considered to be unbeliever
if his heart is remains firmly faithful faith
believe.
Similarly, if somebody is forced to divorce
under extraordinary circumstances, then the
divorce is not valid.
The prophet Mohammed (PBUH) says, “No
divorce and no disengagement by force” [Refer to
Ahmed, Ibn Maha and corrected by El-Hakim] the
term “disengagement” was interpreted to be
excessive and extreme anger. Othman bin Allah
(PBUH) decreed that there is no divorce in a state
of drunkenness.
However, the rational behind permitting
divorce is that the couple may feel that they are
unsuitable for each other and they may hate each
other.
Therefore in such an environment a normal
news generation cannot be brought up therefore,
Islam permitted the occurrence of divorce under
extraordinary circumstances.
Shaikh
Mohammed Bin Salih El-Otheimeen was asked the
following question:
I have divorced my wife three separate
divorces.
The first one I was in the state of
drunkenness anger and rage.
The other two divorces were the result of
excessive anger.
However, love is still existing between us.
Is it possible to return to each other
again?
Answer:
Firstly
he said that he divorced his wife three timely.
The first divorce was under the influence
of wine and anger.
The second and the third divorces were
under the influence of anger.
We ask him, did he consider them divorce or
not?
Regarding the divorce, which is uttered by
drunkenness, some scholars say that it is invalid
due to the absence of intellect.
Some other scholars say that it is valid
and they consider it valid so that to punish him
(as a punishment for him).
However, majority of opinions supports the
decree, which says it is invalid.
Because he was not sober and does not know
what he is saying.
Regarding punishment is that he is to be
punished by whipping in the first time.
If he return again, he is to be whipped
again.
If he returns again he is to be whipped
again.
If he returns again he is to be killed.
Because the prophet Mohammed (PBUH) says,
“whoever drinks wine, whip him then if he drink
kill him”.
He ordered to be killed in the fourth time.
However, scholars disagree whether this
Hadith is abrogated or resjudicata some claim that
it is abrogated and some others say that it is
resjudicata.
Another group says that it is resjudicata
but restricted.
However, the most right opinion is that it
is resjudicata but restricted.
By what it is restricted?
It is restricted by whether people would be
deterred without enforcing death penalty or not.
If a man does not get deterred by repeated
whipping then he is to be killed in the fourth
time.
This is the opinion of Ibn Taymeya.
Those who said that he is to be killed in
the fourth time are Zahir group represented by Ibn
Hazim and those who preceded and followed them.
Those who said that the Hadith is abrogated
are the people of Ahl Al-Ilm.
But as we all know, in case of abrogation
there are two conditions, 1. Impossibility
to harmonize between the two laws. 2.
Knowing the delay of the abrogate.
If it was possible to harmonize between
them, then there is no abrogation.
In other words, whenever it becomes
possible to harmonize between the decrees, then it
is possible to speak of them together so that not
to cancel some of them.
But if the date of the issuing or revealing
the two decrees is not known it is better not to
deal with them.
Because to abrogate any of them by the
other is not better than forgiving.
He says that second divorce he says that he
was under the effect of anger.
However, anger has three stages, initial,
middle and end.
The initial is anger the easy and simple
anger which man knows what he is saying and
capable of controlling himself.
This type has no effect.
The middle anger or moderate anger is that
which makes the angry cannot control himself, as
if something forced him to utter the word divorce.
The third type that type of anger, which
makes the angry loose control over what he is
saying or whether he is on earth or flying in the
space.
This type sometimes affects some people and
hey become nervous and fail to control his
intellect and tongue.
He fails to know that whether he is with
his wife or in the market.
Scholars agree that the man in the third
stage of anger must be considered as a man without
sober intellect.
He is to be treated as a mad and
consequently, divorce is invalid in such a case.
The evidence is that the prophet (PBUH)
said, “No divorce in the state of anger”
[refer to Ahmed, Ibn Maja] Because if this man is
forced to divorce and then he divorces, the
divorce in such a situation is invalid because it
resulted from forcing and it is a forcing by an
internal matter which must be revealed.
Shaikh
Ibn Otheimeen was asked the following question:
When
I wanted to travel, my wife insisted to remain
with her family and not with my family.
Her family is not keen about religious
teachings.
Therefore, I told her if she stays with
them she would no more remain my wife. She stayed
with her family.
Is this considered to be thrice divorce?
What to do?
Answer:
Before I answer this question, I would like
to advice husbands not to make the term of divorce
on the tip of their tongues.
This is a dangerous issue, marriage
contract is given so much importance by Islam that
there is no any other contract which found such a
concern and importance from Islam.
Islam gave much and keen interest as well
as careful and its procedures.
The put careful provisions to family and
family life, because on the basis of that family,
lineage hereditary …etc are decided.
Married life affect the whole society,
unfortunately, some people utter the word of
divorce without considering its disastrous effect
on the wife, family and society as a whole.
Man hastily utter the team “divorce”
and then regretfully search all ways which may
rescue him found this disastrous mistake.
Therefore, my advice for people is that
they should not take such crucial decisions
carelessly.
However, the rational of Islam, behind
prohibiting man from divorcing the woman during
menstruation period.
Because in such a situation and he has
prohibited himself from touching her, he may hate
her.
Man also is prohibited from divorcing her
during the period of purely.
Because she might have conceived from him
during that time and he did not know it.
He may also feel unattached to her because
he has just satisfied himself from her, therefore,
he is in the state of sexual satisfaction at that
moment and may take the decision of divorce
carelessly.
Therefore, Islam wanted man to be careful
about the decision of divorce, but if it happens
and a man says to his wife that if she do so and
so she is not his wife or she is divorced and such
other frank or metaphorical terms of divorce, then
we may ask him and he must answer us from the
depth of his intention, because Allah will trial
him, whether he meant divorce by uttering it or
just he uttered it to threat his wife.
In other words, did he want to divorce her
and enforce his threat if she disobeyed him?
Do you dislike her, or you wanted just to
threat her if she does not obey you.
If it was a matter of threat only, then if
she disobey you, she is not to be considered as a
divorced.
But in such a case you must perform penance
of oath.
Because it is an oath case.
The
permanent committee of Decree was asked the
following question:
What the rule of religion regarding the
single divorce which took place with a single
utterance and for a specific time.
For example: A man says to his wife, you
are divorced for one month.
Is this divorce valid? Is it a sin to do
so?
What is the opinion of religion if he
practices sexual intercourse with her before the
period of one month is over?
It is worth mentioning that the wife did
not leave the house of her husband during that
period?
Answer:
Yes, in this case divorce is valid and it
is a single returnable divorce.
In other words, he can return her since she
is still in the period of Iddah.
However, divorce cannot be for a specific
period. For example, “you are divorced for one
month” If the word of divorce uttered it can not
be restricted to any period and it does not end by
the end of that period.
But if divorce was less than “thrice or
three times divorce” then the husband can
returns her if she was still in the period of
Iddah.
Shaikh
Ibn Otheimeen was asked the following question:
A
man was absent and away from his wife for a long
time and he has taken the decision of divorcing
her but he did not inform her.
In such a situation is divorce valid or
not?
Answer:
Yes, divorce is valid even if he did not
inform her.
If a man utters the term of divorce and
say, “I divorced my wife” she becomes divorced
if she knows or not.
Therefore, if we suppose that this wife did
not know that she is divorced by her husband and
undergoes three menstruation period )menstruated
for three times) it means that she has already
completed the Iddah period although she does not
know that she is divorced.
This is the same case with a woman whose
husband dies and she did not know until the
supposed period of Iddah was over.
In such a case she is not required to do
the period of Iddah when she comes to know about
his death.
Shaikh
Mohammed Bin Ibraheem was asked the following
question:
She claimed that her he is impotent and
when he was asked to undergo medical check-up he
escaped.
What is the opinion of religion in this
regard?
Answer:
The wife claimed that her husband is
impotent and that she is still virgin.
The husband denied.
When the judge to transfer her for medical
check-up by a midwife to confirm whether she is
still virgin or not, and before the process is
completed the husband escaped and did not return.
In this case the husband must be asked to
terminate his claim with his wife and if he does
not come, then the judge can consider him as a
deserter and oblige him to spend on her.
Shaikh
Mohammed Bin Ibraheem was asked the following
question:
In the wedding night he found her in
virgin.
What should he do?
Answer:
You
are asked to see the legal court, moreover, it
would be better not to speak about her
un-Virginian if you are not sure.
Shaikh
Abdel Aziz Bin Baz was asked the following
question:
What are the causes of divorce according to
your opinion?
Answer:
Many reasons are behind the occurrence of
divorce such as the absence of love and harmony
between the couple, bad nature and morality of the
woman and vice versa, disobedience by the wife to
hr husband.
If the husband does not do justice to her,
inability of the husband to perform his duties
towards his wife or vice versa committing of sin
by any of them, addiction of wine, cigarette
..etc, by the husband and vice versa, bad relation
between in-laws, it the woman does not take care
of herself, beautifies herself to him, speak to
him lovingly and mildly, receive him smilingly and
fragrant herself to him..etc.
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